Everything is bigger in DFW

I wanted to update everyone about what has been going on with us recently with some news of moving,and our TTC journey.

When Mike was offered the job with SC we were told it would not be for a Lubbock position,but we wouldn't move out of TX either. We knew it could happen sometime after Christmas so we have been mentally preparing,since we did just move into our rental home. We found out a few weeks ago that we will in fact be moving to DFW in January. Mike will be working in Mansfield,but we haven't decided where we want to live yet. Next month when I go to NYC,instead of coming back to Lubbock,I am flying into DFW where Mike will meet me,and we plan to spend a few days looking at cities,homes,school districts etc. Most likely though,we will live in Arlington. Mike and I have both gone through a lot of emotions,especially with Mike moving away from Alex and Ashley,but I have lived in Lubbock since birth,most of my family is here,I have been at my job for 2 years, and our Maternal/Fetal Dr is here,and I had planned on going through our pregnancy journey with him.We are both excited though,since this we be a journey for Mike and I to experience together..

Now to the TTC issue,yes we are still trying. We are now on cycle 11,which is disappointing,but with my Balanced Translocation (refer to my first blog post) it can make the entire conceiving journey more difficult. The good thing out of this,is since we are now nearing the 1 year mark,we can start doing more testing with Dr.Hales and hopefully speed up with process before we move. Dr.Hales had told me that he has Dr's he works with closely in Dallas,so that is comforting. I have had so many different emotions through this journey so far. I have had a lot of resentment towards God at some points,because it seems crazy that I am the 1 out of 1000 births that has this chromosome disorder,that is making the process of trying to start a family a pain in the ass. There are 16 year olds all over the place with babies that they cant take care of,but we are a married couple ready for a family,and having trouble. That is when I have to think back to the day we met with our Genetic Counselor,we went into the appointment expecting to hear that we would have to adopt or do extensive IVF,but she didn't say any of that. She told us that we can have our own healthy baby,at some point. As we near the 1 year mark and our 2 year anniversary,I can only hope and pray that we get our BFP soon.

That being said I wanted to offer up some advice to those who know someone experiencing trouble TTC. I have heard it all,and it never gets easier...truthfully I want to scream and walk away when I hear these statements. They are neither helpful or reassuring. Just ask if there is anything you can do to help or simply say that you will pray for the couple as they go through the process,and wish them luck.

1.Just relax it will happen. Obviously it hasn't and I am well aware.

2.I bet when you stop "trying" you will get pregnant. Okay,we all know there are certain things that HAVE to happen to get pregnant.

3. It happened for us on the first try. Yeah,that's really what I want to hear.

4. You wouldn't understand,you have never had a baby. Well thank the F outta you. I had NO idea.

5. I bet their is nothing wrong with you. Ok I have had chromosomal testing done,I do in fact have a BT.

6. And my favorite...you can always just adopt or do IVF. You have a few thousand $$ laying around because I don't,and they are both upwards of $10-$20k. Trust me,I have done the research.

Until next time!